Kids and police brutality are words I never thought I’d have to use in the same sentence.  But, reality is that Americans are having to face this reality everyday, especially if you happen to be raising three Black boys in the inner city.  (Raise your hand if you’re in that group.  I know I am.)

Just last month my son had a totally and completely positive interaction with the police.  He was at a local outdoor shopping mall with his cousins and the police stopped them as a reminder about the curfew at the shopping mall.  My son was attending our family reunion and we were staying at a nearby hotel.  The officer told the boys to return to their hotel and be safe, and that was it.  So, how do I tell my son that all police officers won’t be that nice?

How do we tell our kids that as they get older they may be perceived as a threat?  How do I tell my son that even the pretty brown-skin girl in his class might be slammed to the ground in her bathing suit by an adult who is supposed to protect her?  How do I tell him that throughout history the police officers, who he idolized as a little boy,  have brutalized men that look like his dad, grandfather and uncles?

It’s tough and I don’t have all the answers. And that’s why I’m participating in the #BlackMomsChat this Thursday at 7pm EST to find answers about having “The Talk” with my boys.  In the meantime, here are some talking points to include in your chat about kids and police brutality.

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All cops aren’t bad cops.

In light of all the shootings that have occurred, we can’t forget about the police that are just like the one my son met last month.  He just wants to get home safe and keep peace in the community.  As a mom of 3 black boys, it’s hard for me to admit it, but all cops aren’t bad.

Racism IS real!

You can’t talk to your kids about police brutality and forget to mention that some people simply do not like others because of their skin color.  We would be leaving out a huge factor in the issues that cause police brutality if leaving out the fact that most police brutality victims are targeted because of race.  (We’ll be talking about this during the #BlackMomsChat more info is below)

It happens to girls too!

Sandra Bland, the young Black girl in South Carolina who was pulled from her desk and tossed across the room by a police officer and we can never forget the young girl from Texas who was pinned down by a police officer while wearing her bikini.  Our conversations about police brutality MUST include our young black girls. Sometimes we are so consumed with having the conversation with our sons who might be pulled over by police, that we forget it’s happening to our girls too.  Our sons need to realize that not only should they be protecting themselves from renegade officers, but that they must look out for their sisters too.

It’s never too early to have “The Talk”

It’s okay to leave out graphic details about police brutality with your 5-year-old, you have to prepare them for the fact that they might witness or be a victim of police brutality long before they are able to process why. (i.e. Tamir Rice & the young girl who witnessed the shooting of Philandro Castille)  It’s never to early.

If you haven’t figured it out yet, in this day in age all parents need to have “The Talk” with their kids.

On Thursday at 7pm EST I will be participating in a Twitter chat about talking to our children about police brutality. We will be addressing everything from talking to our girls about police brutality to what age is appropriate to have “The Talk” and how to restore our faith in the policing system.  We will be joined by Officer Nakia Jones the African-American female police officer who posted an impassioned Facebook message calling out her fellow officers who commit heinous crimes against the very people they should be protecting. Follow us using the #BlackMomsChat.

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I’ll see you on Thursday!

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Cynthia Mendoza

Hello. Welcome to BrownMamas.com a blog for Black moms looking to thrive while raising kids in this hectic world and the headquarters for Pittsburgh Brown Mamas, a Pittsburgh support group for Black moms. Here I write about raising my three boys, living in and loving Pittsburgh, dating my husband, gardening and all kinds of other stuff. Thanks for visiting. Stay long & come often!

10 thoughts on “4 Things We Forget to Tell Our Kids About Police Brutality”

Muffy Mendoza . July 10, 2017 at 12:11 pm

Very soon. We will start doing webinars this September!!!

Mothers of Joy University . July 9, 2017 at 7:27 am

is there a way to hear or to see this?I wish I would have know last year..

Muffy Mendoza . August 23, 2016 at 8:30 pm

I hope to chat with you next time. It was great to have Officer Nakia Jones’ insight and opinions.

Moms 'N Charge (@MomsNCharge) . August 23, 2016 at 8:52 am

I am SO sad that I missed this chat! I would’ve loved to be a part of it. I saw her video online and was so moved by her compassion. I will be looking up the hashtag to see what I missed. Great job ladies!

Muffy Mendoza . August 21, 2016 at 10:09 am

Your grandmother was probably right! Thanks for commenting!

A. Blake . August 20, 2016 at 11:27 pm

I had “The Talk” with my sons in 2000 and it’s amazing that history is constantly repeating itself everyday. Jordan Davis, Travon Martin, Michael Brown, Tamir Rice and all the other sons are all OUR sons so we must continue to have “The Talk”

Sandra Bland was a Sorority Sister (Sigma Gamma Rho) and her face is always etched in my mind as to why those cops would kill her and then blame it on suicide. Like my grandmother used to say, “they are going to bust hell wide open!” Stay strong sis!

Muffy Mendoza . August 19, 2016 at 7:35 am

Yes it was. We need more officers like her willing to chime in on the issue. Can’t wait until the next #blackmomschat

Muffy Mendoza . August 19, 2016 at 7:34 am

It was awesome! We were trending. Use #blackmomschat to find us next time.

DiaryofaFirstTimeMom (@DearMomDiary) . August 19, 2016 at 7:10 am

Great to hear Officer Jones weigh in on such an important topic! She knows both sides first hand–being a mom and being a police officer–and can share solid advice to keep our kids safe and sound!

Ian . August 19, 2016 at 12:01 am

Wow I just missed this post by a few hours. How was the discussion?

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