As a young girl growing up in the city of Pittsburgh I always dreamed of having a family of my own. I remember even saying to myself I don’t have to be rich or famous, I just wish to have a solid, happy family! I recall not getting involved with particular things because I would think “I wouldn’t want to have to explain that to my children.”
On the contrary I did certain things because I wanted to be able to tell my children and show them mommy’s accomplishments. I always believed in creating a legacy for my children as well as the future generation.
Interesting enough as I aged and worked with children I began to lose the desire to have my own, but I guess I knew at some point I would rear or care for some children. As time past, I married and began the discussions most couples have about children. We set guidelines together on how we wanted our family to be. We were in agreement with most things about family and the thing we stood on firmly was me staying home with our children until they were school aged.
When I became pregnant with our first son we weren’t in any position for me to stay home. We had bought our first home and like any young couple had accrued a significant amount of debt. However, we held firm to the decision for me to stay home with our son. It was certainly a huge sacrifice and a new world and way of living for the both of us.
The biggest challenge was always our finances. Our household income caused us to live from paycheck to paycheck and often times we fell behind in bills and had to simply do without. I always wanted my children to be able to take part in activities and programs for their development but could never afford the programs I wanted. However that didn’t stop me from reaching out and finding opportunities for them. I must say God always provided and had favor, where each of my boys went to summer camp every year, took part in athletic programs, were involved in cultural activities and experienced great fun!
What bothered me most though is that I always felt I had a need for support and wished there was a way to be with my children and help supplement our household income. I looked at opportunities over the years, but everything seemed to take away from the time I would be able to spend teaching and nurturing my children. To me that was not a sacrifice I was ready for! Now, I’m not knocking those that have to or choose to, but it wasn’t something we felt was good for our family.
Being a stay-at-home mom has never been easy when it comes not only to finances, but a host of other things. An example, the sacrificing of one’s own goals, interest and development. However, it has been the most rewarding decision as I see my boys grow and all of the valuable lessons I learned as a mother. I could never take the credit for this opportunity because I know our family is still solid because of God’s grace! I’m now ever grateful that the good Lord blessed me now with the opportunity to work from home as an Entrepreneur! Still heavily involved with my children, caring for our youngest baby boy and having a supplemental income while doing such. Work at Home United has created another new world of opportunities for us and I look forward to much success as a stay-at-home mom and business owner! I can not say we are where we would like be financially, but with Work At Home United we are working closer toward our goals. Also, not only are we creating a legacy for our children, but as an entrepreneur I now can leave an inheritance!
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