January 27th, 2015

#GoodMama | #goodmamatop

blog #GoodMama Markisha Navigates Motherhood Successfully

In a world where being loud, boastful and spontaneous is the status quo, it’s nice to meet someone who is pleasant.  If I could use one word to describe Markisha, pleasant would be it.  Through conversation with her you will know that she is one tough mama of a 12-year-old daughter, and has made some major power moves in corporate America, but she maintains a humble and charming exterior. She is sweet, loving, articulate, classy and definitely a #goodmama. But, don’t mess with this mama’s cub.  You might not like the outcome.  In just a few meetings with Ms. Markisha I can tell she will be someone I can depend on.  Here’s Markisha’s motherhood journey.  Enjoy!]

What makes you a #GoodMama?

That’s a great question, I think I have a few things I’m proud of as a mama.  I’m proud that at 12-years-old my daughter leads by example. She has a kind heart and is a master negotiator. I’m also proud of myself for not allowing my circumstances to define me. I used them as motivation to be the best example I could be for my daughter.  I work hard and stay focused on creating a life we can be proud of.

How have your feelings about motherhood changed since you gave birth?

When I first became a mom I was worried about germs an colds. Now I just pray that my daughter will continue to be positive and remain an encouraging and loving leader for her generation. The world has changed so much in the last 12 years that I find myself not as worried about the little things.

What advice would you give to a new mom?

I would tell any new mom to make sure you don’t forget about yourself. We often put our life aside for our children, which isn’t a bad thing.  But, we have to keep in mind the unspoken lessons we teach by doing that [putting ourselves last].

Pray often, speak positively and make sure your children know that no matter what this world says they are the kings an queens that will one day have the opportunity to change the world.

What obstacles have you faced during motherhood and how have you overcome them?

I have experienced plenty of obstacles over the years. I always try to pray then plan. I take advantage of the resources and people in my life who want to see me do well and are willing to help. I learned early on that it’s okay to ask for help.

What would America be surprised to know about Black mothers?

We are strong, we are committed to the success of our children and we do have deep love for one another.

What is the Number One lesson motherhood has taught you?

Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

We seek mentors to grow professionally so why can’t we seek “momtors” to help us navigate motherhood successfully.

What is your proudest mommy moment?

Most recently when looking over my daughter’s report card I gave her praise for getting high honor roll. She thanked me but let me know that she was fine with high honor roll, but next semester she will get a 4.0! I was so happy to hear her set her own goals and see that she is already working on a plan to achieve them without my help. She did listen all these years! #happydance