Parenting teens is by far the hardest job us Mamas are asked to do.  Teenagers go through a myriad of psychological and emotional ups and downs throughout puberty.  So, it’s important that you keep the lines of communication open.  I’m not a fan of being your child’s friends, but that doesn’t mean you have to be their enemy.  Teenagers need safe spaces to talk to adults without feeling embarrassed or chastised.

The following 12 questions to ask your teenager right now are all about gaining insight into your teenager’s developing brain.  While your teenager may seem stubborn about their decisions and wants, Mamas need to know that their thoughts and perspectives are still developing and evolving daily.  If you’re parenting teenagers, here are 12 questions you’ll want to ask with the quickness.

 

The first few questions are mandatory for safety.

  1. What is the password for your cellphone?
    1. No lock doors! Period.  No locked bedroom doors, bathroom doors or cell phones. As my mom says you can trust a teenager as far as you can throw them and since my son is over 6 foot, I can trust when he’s within an inch of me.  NO LOCK DOORS!
  1. What are the passwords and handles for ALL of your social media accounts
    1. Again, NO LOCK DOORS?
  2. Have you had sex yet? I know you haven’t had sex yet (that may be a lie), but what about 4-play?
    1. Your kid might not wanna tell you they’ve had sex, but since teens are a narcissistic bunch who love to talk about themselves, they might tell you if they’ve done any feely, feely, touchy, touchy?

Now that you’ve got through that, these are the real conversation starters for Mamas parenting teens.

  1. If you could be best friends with anyone in the world who would it be?
    1. The saying goes, you can tell a lot about someone by who their friends are.  While your teen might be sweet and innocent around you, chances are there friends are not.  Get their friends close and them even closer.
  2. Do you have a nickname on social media?
    1. I just found out that many teenagers have nicknames on social media.  Not only could this give you a good idea about your child’s social rep, but it also give insight into what your child may or may not be thinking about him/herself. In the same way Mamas can learn a lot about how their toddlers view life from play, social media is a teenager’s playground.
  3. What type of girls/guys do you like?
    1. AGAIN, perception is everything. Because teens are oh, so self-centered their ideal date is someone who, ultimately, will do everything they want them to do.  This will give you some insight into how they see themselves right now.
  4. What is your favorite song right now?
    1. Teens know music! They love music.  They live music.  Knowing your teenager’s favorite song tells you if they are lonely and brokenhearted, like to party, just wanna get high or are poppin’ mollies.  Know your kid’s favorite artist, song or genre and know their life.
  5. Who is your role model, or who do you want to be like when you grow up?
  6. Do your friends think that you are a leader or a follower?
    1. This is a big one.  Peer pressure is real and most teens are really willing to talk about what their friends think about any subject, especially themselves.  Whether they are a leader or follower is irrelevant, is all about figuring out how your teen believes the world sees him/her.
  7. If you could look like anyone in the world, who would it be?
  8. What’s the one thing in your life that you wish you could get a do-over on?
  9. What is the one thing you own that is more important to you than life itself?
    1. Find out what your teenager’s precious is and you’ll know where their heart truly lies.

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Cynthia Mendoza

Hello. Welcome to BrownMamas.com a blog for Black moms looking to thrive while raising kids in this hectic world and the headquarters for Pittsburgh Brown Mamas, a Pittsburgh support group for Black moms. Here I write about raising my three boys, living in and loving Pittsburgh, dating my husband, gardening and all kinds of other stuff. Thanks for visiting. Stay long & come often!

2 thoughts on “12 Questions to Ask Your Teenager RIGHT NOW!”

Cynthia Mendoza . August 14, 2017 at 9:51 pm

Anytime sis! I hope these help! Teenagers are a lot of work. Talking to them is not easy, but yields high rewards.

Nicole McKamey . August 14, 2017 at 9:44 pm

Thank you! Some of these questions I already know the answers to but some of them I never thought to ask. I feel like we’ve hit a road block in our communication which used to be very open, so I hope these questions will be the conversation starter that we need!

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