What Makes You a #GoodMama?

I am kind, gentle, a great listener, and full of LOVE!!

How have your feelings on motherhood changed since giving birth?

When I first became a mom, I was terrifed! I was very over protective of my daughter. She is my miracle baby and that played a large roll in my feelings toward her. Now, I am more comfortbale and confident. I trust myself more in the decisions that I make for my daughter. I still consider myself a “new” mom. My daughter just turned 4 yrs old, and there are things that I am still learning about being a mom.

What advice would you give to a new mom?

mothersloveBe patient, get rest, and don’t be afraid to ask for help!! It isn’t a good idea to google every issue or question regarding your children online. I was hard- headed, and didn’t start taking advice from my own mom (who is experienced at parenting) until recently. There were many times my mom would provide great guidance and advice, and I wouldn’t follow it. After almost 4 years of being a mom, I said to myself,  “Yes, my mom is right!” She knows her stuff! Being a mom is a learning process, but it is helpful to have that one person who knows what they are talking about, and can help you.

What obstacles have you faced as a mom?

african.motherIt all began prior to my daughter being born. I was a high risk pregnancy due to losing so many babies while carrying them in the past. Prayer, and having a strong support system got me through the everyday worries of being pregnant. I called my doctor about four times a week with constant questions! Did I sit wrong? Did I hurt that baby walking too fast? Did I hurt the baby by pulling a muscle? Oh, I dont think that I felt the baby move today (etc.). Thank God that my doctor knew my pregnancy history, and accepted every call. Once my baby arrived, I felt accomplished, and proud. Obstacles that came once my daughter was here, I handled with ease. I didn’t even see them as obstacles, I seen them as opportunites to learn. I felt that my major obstacle was to get my daughter here to earth, and the rest would fall into place. So far, it has.
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What would America be surprised to know about African-American mothers?

African American mothers are strong, resilient, loving, respectful, and beautiful! And not every African American mother is a single parent. My daughter is being raised in a 2 parent home by both her father and I.

What would America be surprised to know about African-American mothers?

My time is not always the right time. Everything will happen when its meant to happen. I cant rush life! I have learned to enjoy my daughter at every moment and every milestone! I cant believe that she is 4 yrs old already! It feels like she was just born!

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Muffy Mendoza is an author, speaker and founder of Pittsburgh Brown Mamas, a support group for nearly 4,000 African-American moms in the Pittsburgh region. To further fill the void Muffy has created a line of educational products focused on helping Black moms be the best moms, too. Her first book, The Brown Mama Mindset: A Blueprint for Black Moms on Life, Love & Home, was featured at the 2018 Essence Festival and is currently sold in various cities across the U.S. Muffy champions the beauty of Black motherhood everywhere she goes, even on the TEDx stage. Find out more about Muffy on muffymendoza.com.

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