When did you became a mom and how did you feel?
In 2004 I became a mom for the first time. Still can’t believe it has been 10 years since I was responsible for someone other than myself. I was a nervous wreck. I thought I was going to leave my baby on top of the car after going to the grocery store. But, I also couldn’t help but be a little angry. I was not in the place where I wanted to be financially and family-wise. I was a single mom. So, I was overwhelmed, but still in love.
How do you feel about motherhood right now?
It’s almost like I don’t know who I am without them (Dion, 10 and Zion, 8 ). I love to get a break, but I love when they come back. The moment you give birth every moment becomes a personally defining moment. It impacts every decision you make from what you wear to what you consume. You become the ultimate role model as a mother.
What is unique about your family?
We really take care of each other. We breathe into each other, but we also get life from each other. We really live, laugh and learn together.
Describe your ideal mommy friend.
A real mommy friend should share some of your values. She should be a nurturer, but also a disciplinarian. She needs to know when and how to give love. She also should recognize the individuality of us as mothers, but also the individuality of our children. She would know that differences should be celebrated. She would also be a lover of life and a lifelong leaner. She also has to like to eat!
Hello. Welcome to BrownMamas.com a blog for Black moms looking to thrive while raising kids in this hectic world and the headquarters for Pittsburgh Brown Mamas, a Pittsburgh support group for Black moms. Here I write about raising my three boys, living in and loving Pittsburgh, dating my husband, gardening and all kinds of other stuff. Thanks for visiting. Stay long & come often!